Love does not have to be a mystery there is a science to it! Research has demonstrated the mysteries of attachment styles, how love affects us personally, and how to create secure attachments. We know that love can be difficult and that it can be wonderful. We also know that it can produce in us the most awesome feelings  positive or negative. Love has the potential to help us be the most safe, secure, and happy we have ever been, and yet also has the potential to have us be the most hurt, betrayed, heartbroken, and miserable.

Some believe that it is better to be alone, that being alone is less painful and creates more independence. There is truth to that argument, but it isn't the whole truth. Believe it or not, the opposite is also true. We can be more independent by developing trust and security in a relationship. Having a secure attachment and depending on one another actually fosters independence.